Sunday, November 2, 2014

Love, Sex, Pain and The Whole Damned Thing... or October Book Club Meeting


On a dark and windy (but not stormy) night, just before Halloween, my book club gathered at the beautiful home of one our members, to eat and drink and talk about war. More specifically about books on World War I.


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If you read my blog regularly, you'll know that this is a particular area of interest of mine. Poetry and fiction written during and about WWI and its aftermath has always moved me. I love the stories of the men and women who lived the horror of that time and saw the death of an old world and the dawn of a new century, for the twentieth century really began in 1914 with the beginning of the war. 

I did a lot of reading and rereading about WWI, and the writers who chronicled it, in June, when I wrote a blog post about the one hundredth anniversary of the events that lead to WWI, and about some of the poetry and fiction of the era. It took me three days to write the post. I kept getting bogged down in what I was reading, "mired in the mud" of the war, so to speak. You can read that post here.

On the evening of our meeting, we arrived at dusk, the leaves blowing around our feet in the cold wind. Brrrr. But Janet's home was warm and welcoming and filled with colour, as you can see. 



The routine for a book club meeting is: drinks, nibbles, dinner and then book talk. So I'll regale you with what we ate before I get into what we read.

Janet is an accomplished cook. And after a glass of wine and some nibbles, we feasted on fresh figs filled with marscapone and orange zest...and some other stuff that tasted divine but which I can't remember....not being an accomplished cook myself. 


Then she served us salad, warm bread and the best pasta I have ever had. Seriously. And I know my pasta; since I make my own from scratch, it is one of the few things which I do well in the kitchen. Fettucini with roasted butternut squash, crispy pancetta, wilted spinach, and a roasted garlic sauce. I would have taken a picture of the pasta course but I was too busy wielding my fork and closing my eyes in rapture. We finished with a lovely maple pecan pie and coffee. 

Over dinner we talked about sex, rough sex, and the CBC... and, believe me, it's not often that one would include rough sex in the same sentence as that venerable Canadian institution the CBC. Actually we were talking about the scandal surrounding the popular host (or former host) of the CBC arts and culture program "Q." Lots of opinions about that situation which I won't go into here... one of our members being a former CBC journalist and another being related to one. But enough said. Back to books.

For this meeting we diverged from our usual practice of discussing a single book that we had all read. Instead we read books of our choice about the theme, which was World War I. I love it when we do this, especially if there is a large enough variety of books. 

Two of our members read non-fiction books. One was The Undertones of War, poet Edmund Blunden's memoir of his experiences in WWI. The other was Margaret MacMillan's The War That Ended Peace: The Road To 1914. They provided two very different takes on the war, obviously. One having been written from a very personal perspective and chronicling the author's experiences in the trenches, the other crafted with the aid of the passage of time and MacMillan's not inconsiderable skills as a historian.


           

The rest of us read fiction. 

Sebastian Faulks' brilliant Birdsong, and Pat Barker's award winning Regeneration, the first book of her trilogy.


                        

  I talked about both of these works in my earlier post. They were on my list of favourite books about WWI. Both are deeply affecting and wonderfully written. Barker's book is especially close to my heart because she uses real life characters, in particular the poets Siegfried Sassoon and Wilfred Owen, alongside the fictional ones. 

The last two books we talked about are both by Pat Barker as well.


                    

Life Class deals with the lives of three budding artists, who attend the Slade School of Art in London at the beginning of the war. And Toby's Room picks up with many of the same characters later in the war. Like Barker's other books, they combine historical characters with fictional ones. And they both show men and women confronting love and pain and facing death, either their own or that of loved ones. They also, interestingly enough, deal with  the role of art and, as Hermione Lee says in her review of Toby's Room, "what art can, or should, do with the  horrors of war." 

You can read Lee's review from The Guardian here. It's much more than just a review of Toby's Room, touching as it does on themes of other works and other authors like Virginia Woolfe, as well as the historical figures used by Barker in her books. 

We wrapped up our discussion with talk of the differences between fiction and non-fiction. Whether one or the other is better able to depict the pain and the fear and the horror of war. And whether one or the other is better able to help those of us who will never experience war to understand what it must have been like. In the end we agreed to disagree about this. But I think that we all felt that whatever book we read, in whichever genre, we all came away with a better understanding of that dark time between 1914 and 1918.

In one of my earlier blog posts about books I talked about Penelope Lively's book Consequences, and the line that says that "books take you out of yourself and put you down somewhere else from whence you never entirely return." I know that's why I love reading. And I think that's the gift it gives us. You can travel to exotic places and times, meet all kinds of characters, and learn amazing things. But also, and perhaps more importantly, you can learn to have empathy for the lives and struggles of others and maybe even gratitude for your own. 

Certainly on that dark windy night last week I was very grateful to be beside the fire at Janet's and among good friends, and not waiting in a cold, muddy trench to go over the top at first light. 

Now as for the title of this post. Remember that movie with Maggie Smith and Timothy Bottoms? No? Well, I confess I did misquote it a bit.... sorry Maggie. But how else to capture the essence of our conversation that night? War, love, pain, death, and sex and the CBC. Oh, and food. The whole damned shebang...in one book club meeting. Whoever said that middle aged women are boring?!








Do you belong to a book club? Any suggestions for books for mine? 




18 comments:

  1. I read Faulks and Barker back when I was in a book club. Was a member for years and years, even belonged to two at once for one or two years, but for now I couldn't manage the social energy on a weeknight after a working day. . . sad, no?! If I were in one now, though, I'd suggest Eva Hornung's Dog Boy or Claire Messud's The Woman Upstairs. You'll already have read Donna Tartt's The Goldfinch, I'm sure. That one hardly needs recommending. One of the most powerful books I read this year is from the backlist -- Jeannette Winterson's Why Be Happy when You Could Be Normal. Loved it, so moving! And such a great evocation of working class England in the late-mid-20th century.. .
    And yes, I do remember that movie, and the title springs to mind surprisingly often.

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    1. I know exactly what you mean. I had to drop out of book clubs for the last 7 or 8 years before I retired. I went about once to year to make sure they still recognized me! i'm going to write those titles down....and order them from the library. Yet another joy of retirement...I am quite happy to wait for books to come available at the library.

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  2. Meant to say also that I LOVE the triptych above your friend's sofa in her beautiful living-room

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  3. My book club read A Soldier of the Great War, fiction by Mark Helprin, several years ago. It became one of my favorite books. I may read some of those your club read about WWI.

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    1. Thanks for the recommendation. I'll see if they have it at our library. And thanks for reading.

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  4. Have you heard the album "Battlefields of green" by John McDermott? "And the Band Played Waltzing Matilda" and "Christmas in the Trenches" still move me beyond words, though my husband and I have listened to his music countless times over the 20 years or so since the album was produced.

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    1. No I haven't. But I did hear "And the Band Played Waltzing Matilda" at an Anzac Day celebration when we were in Australia. Very moving.
      Thanks for stopping by, Pam.

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    2. Sadly the album is not available on iTunes (and even more tragic is that the wonderful singer is no longer alive)- but I'd be happy to burn and mail you a copy of the album if you'd like. It would perfectly bookend Wilfred Owen's poetry.

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    3. Thanks for the kind offer Pam...but I will see if they have it at our library. They have an extensive CD collection and can order from any library in the Ottawa Carleton area. I am a big fan of the library!

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    4. Great to know- I am sad that this album is now "out of print" (I had given it as gifts to my father and uncle who were WWll and Korean war vets).

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    5. Getting this CD from my library. Great post and booklist.

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  5. for the past 2 or 3 years i was in a book club at my local library and enjoyed it very much. it was, tho, a very businesslike book club with no food and wine and we had to wrap things up in 1 hour so the 2 librarians who facilitated the discussion could get back to their work. then we had 4 or 5 books in a row that didn't interest me and, worse yet, the librarian who wrote the best discussion questions and led us into high-flying metaphysical realms, moved away. i stopped attending. maybe i need to either start going again or find another club. as usual, you have inspired me. i will try the books you recommended, especially the barkers, ASAP.

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    1. I'm not sure I could be in a totally businesslike book club. As a former English teacher it would be too hard to have someone else control the discussion too much. Although having said that some book groups can be frustrating if there is not enough discussion. I guess I like a happy medium...and good food and wine along with the books:)
      I think you will like the Barker Regeneration trilogy and the Faulkes book, Birdsong, particularly.

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  6. Sorry for the delay in commenting on this interesting post: unfortunately it's difficult to write to this site via the ipad and this is my first foray onto a PC for a while (houseguest occupying the relevant room). In any event, I liked many of these books but have an additional suggestion which is to watch the movie Gods and Monsters, about the director James Whalley, who is played by Ian McKellan. I don't want to say more because any comment in relation to your post will be a spoiler. But I guarantee you an incredible "aha" moment.

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    1. I do know the limits of i-pad-Google interaction. When I try to comment on some blogs..my i-pad refuses cooperate. Not sure why.
      Thanks for the movie recommendation. I'm intrigued, now.

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